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Ron Writes

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Proverbs on Marriage (Joining Two Series)

	By wisdom a house is built,
	And by understanding it is established;
	And by knowledge the rooms are filled
	With all precious and pleasant riches.
		Proverbs 24:3-4

By making wise choices our marriages can be established and filled. So, are you building or tearing down?

	The wise woman builds her house,
	But the foolish tears it down with her own hands.
		Proverbs 14:1

A Christian writer talks about visiting with some women at a marriage conference. The brides-to-be gushed with enthusiasm about the things they loved about their future husbands. However, he noted that the married women emphasized the faults they saw in their husbands. Somewhere they began to look at their husbands not by who they were, but by who they were NOT. Somewhere they stopped seeing the good things and began focusing on what disappointed them. At best, we marry a sinner who brings their share of disappointments.

Does your spouse constantly irritate you? In response, are you constantly complaining? See Proverbs 27:15-16 (cf. 21:9)

Fighting and quarrels can result. She doesn’t feel loved, he doesn’t feel respected and the fight is on. See Proverbs 26:20 (cf. 17:14).

	Keeping away from strife is an honor for a man,
	But any fool will quarrel.
		Proverbs 20:3

No wonder there are so many warnings about the use of our words (17:19; 20:3; 12:18; 13:3; 17:27; 10:19). Be wise with your words. See Proverbs 16:23-24.

Like your spouse! It begins with the heart. It begins with not focusing on what we don’t like about each other and realizing how much there is to like. We are emotionally repulsed and withdraw from those we don’t like. Show love and respect. Pile up in the warehouse of your heart all the things you like about your spouse. Build wisely!